Right at this moment, one side of my head feels very, very
odd. Yes, that’s my opening statement. Bit odd, but honest and to the point.
I’m exploring, finding a frequency, trying to level up my life in a way that’s
fruitful and sensible. Many find solace in a television screen, a bottle,
promiscuity or substances. Me, I explore or, at least, I try.
Over the last few weeks I’ve read, studied, tried to
understand and explored via meditative options. I’ve found nearly all of it
sensible, honest, scientifically proven and although I’ve not enjoyed most of
it, due to various reasons, I know that it’s a worthwhile endeavour. As above,
I don’t hide. Well… not now, at least. I did, but that’s another story.
Over the years a few people have stated that I don’t open
up. When (if) I do, you get to see, hear and feel the genuine person underneath
the smiles and topics of jest. It is a wonderful moment. It’s rare and,
ashamedly, a tragedy of immense proportions for someone like myself to hide the
best part away. My emotions. “Not those again!” I hear you proclaim.
Yes. Emotions. I have lost so much due to them. Either too
much emotion (early life) or too little (later on). This brings me to my inner
child.
I have found the loneliest young child lying alone, in an incubator.
That new-born was left without caring arms for twelve weeks. That, to a
psychiatrist, is a time bomb of unhealed abandonment and trauma. Oh yes. Most
certainly.
I have found the quietest young boy that just wanted his
voice to be heard, not daring to speak, just in case the arguments started.
Again. Over and over. The silence deafening, filling each room with dread and
cold quiet. Best to play with my toys on my own.
I have found the smallest little boy screaming at the top of
his lungs, asking not to be left alone, in an adult’s hospital ward, not
knowing what to do other than to hold up his arms shouting, “Don’t leave me,
you don’t love me, please…!” Then, after that moment, every single hospital day
was blocked from my conscious memory and even now, I hardly recall anything
from that time.
I have found the young adult pushing down his own
abandonment and fear, as both parents did what they do, leaving. Both parents.
Left. Fair enough. I understood the reasoning and didn’t, seemingly, become
affected by it. I was.
I’ve also met a few others but they become a little dark so
I can stop at this point.
In my life, I’ve met many, many people. Nearly all of them
have suffered at one point in time, as a youngster. Even the smallest thing can
leave an imprint upon a person. When we’re young our emotional safety and well
being is a delicate balance of love, care and words. Even one word can change
the way you perceive situations from that single point in time. It’s no wonder
that the world suffers, as each child suffers. Trying to understand the bigger
picture, the world around you, from an early age, is largely dependant on the
adults and care givers around us. I don’t blame the adults, as it's a never-ending
continuation of doing the best they/we can. We’re not professionals (not that I’d know as
the old child I’ve looked after is myself. Oh.)
Today, I met my fully abandoned self. I thought that I could
meet each individual moment of my young life and, I have, but today was
different. You could call your inner child your emotional stability/intelligence.
You could call your inner child the part of you that has been wounded upon many
occasions. You could also call your inner child a load of rubbish, but the data
and information is there for everyone to see.
I know that I have emotional connectivity issues. Ask me an
emotional question and I can develop and view nearly every single scenario.
It’s been said many, many times, that I’m the most ‘understanding person’ that
x or y knows, but that’s fine, as long as it’s not about me or the people I
care about.
I retreat. I have retreated and it has cost me so very, very
much. No more.
Today I descended into the back corners of my mind and,
through a descriptive, imaginary situation from a professional, I opened the door
to the place where all of my discarded emotions, memories and horrible
situations go to die. They don’t vanish, unless you deal with them. Sat amongst
the rubbish, within this dark horrible space, sat a young child. He was around
seven or eight. Ideally, I should have seen a young baby in an incubator, but
maybe I’ve dealt with that already.
The emotion was real. I’d hidden away. This child, this
person, this very moment, has shown me what I’ve done with my emotional
reasoning. ‘I’m worthless’, ‘I’m nothing’, ‘I don’t deserve…’, ‘I’m always
alone’ and more. This is why I didn’t and don’t speak when my rational mind
screams for me to do so. It’s actually quite a tragic series of life events.
The love that I’ve damaged, the emotions I’ve missed, the stability that I’ve
denied myself and more.
One could be overly dismissive about all of this and push it
aside, but when we’re/you’re alone at night, in an empty bed, if you allow
yourself to open up, you know that we all have something missing. Something
that can be changed. Or, just continue eating crisps and shouting at the TV,
ignoring the soledad (Spanish), solemn child within.
I wish for freedom. I no longer wish to love someone else,
as I need and want and wish to love myself. I would, however, like to ‘share’
that love. I want my frequency to vibe with the best part of myself and
others/another. I do not wish to be attached, as I would prefer to exist
alongside. I have damaged myself so very, very much over the years and the fear
of abandonment has silenced my inner voice. This is tragic. It’s unfortunate.
Thankfully, there’s further discovery to follow. There is
far more teaching to understand. It’s all an adventure.
‘We’, are making progress. Each of my inner children, or the
inner child that has been freed from a prison of my own making, are with me.
We, can now develop, grow, understand and more. After all, if you release your
inner child, then there’s a lot more work to do. I’m scared, intrigued, hesitant
but willing to move forward. I refuse to spend another second trapped within my
own prison.
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